You see so many people, including on this site, who love to focus on the negative as opposed to the positive. Personally with things that have happened in my life in the past few years, from having cancer to losing some of the people closest to me, I have come to realize that life is pretty amazing. Sure there are things that we all don’t like, but instead of bitching about them why not make a change? You hate your job; get a new job. You hate your spouse; leave your spouse. You hate Paul Thomas; well….that is unavoidable.

I guess when you have had to consider your mortality in this world, you learn that for most part fear is a hindrance that stops you from realizing true happiness. Most people don’t sit and think about the things they regretted doing; they think about the things they regretted passing up. I have always found that by putting love first, you will live a fuller life undoubtedly be happier.

I fear dying because I don’t want to miss any of the wonder. To me, the two are forever linked. Life is so beautiful, even with all its pain and misery, that I can’t bear the thought of losing it, fading into nothingness and never having consciousness again. I don’t even like sleeping sometimes because of this. I want to be conscious.

Then, when it’s time to get up in the morning I just want to sleep more, of course.

I have rarely experienced great fear. On that side of the spectrum(which is useful) I am guided away from shame. I see so much of what constant fear or doubt do to a person and I don’t follow suit.

On the other and more powerful side in my personality I am guided by my passions. I try and bring up my friends and family. Positivity breads happiness and other like people. And vice versa living with fear.

Following joy may not be a perfect road for everyone but the experience is less tragic than being afraid to travel it. I think most people are much closer to either spectrum if they really thought about it. Each thought, one way or the other, leads to similar thoughts. The thoughts become a perspective of the world you see and eventually that perspective becomes your personality and way of life.

Simplest solution is to watch American Beauty. There is so many amazing things in our world how can you not be happy?

As for our insignificance in the grand scheme of the cosmos we’ll never experience that on a personal level as we are too concerned with our own lives.

 It’s not like some deity is going to personally appear in front of us to remind us we are only one of six billion and we don’t matter. Of course we matter just in our small segment in our world. But imagine this: let’s say some network does a Story about you after you die. In some lame grim world people may think ‘who cares’. But the truth is someone who you never knew would probably feel bad you had passed. Now imagine how the people who know you would feel. That’s pretty powerful.

Sure out of 6 billion And the universe as a whole we don’t mean much. But I bet mean a lot more to those we know and don’t know than we realize.

Fear is easy. And boring. Loving in the face of fear is the existential equivalent of nutting up.